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One Flawsome Momma: What is a FUNK? And what to do about it.

In a funk?

Me too.


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A funk is that gray area where I could potentially slide into depression – I start to see the symptoms.  
  • Excessive Fatigue no matter how much sleep I get.
  • Emotionally Labile.  Crying for no reason.  Irritable.  Cranky.  Impatient.
  • Dramatic.  Everything is SO HARD.  Everything feels so HEAVY.
  • Unmotivated.  Previous ambitions take the back seat.

The only good news is that as I get older I can recognize these funks before they become full-blown Major Depressive Episodes.  I’m not saying it’s always avoidable – Mental Illness and the Brain can be an unpredictable mess.  But with recognition and intervention I can usually fight back.


We battle these demons.  Sometimes life feels like an uphill battle, but giving up isn’t an option.

Not for me, at least.  I’m an ambitious, intelligent, creative and compassionate woman.  I have goals.  I want to change the world.

In order to do that I have to be Transparent.  Vulnerable.  Honest.

And that shit is scary.  There is SO MUCH JUDGEMENT when it comes to Chronic illness, especially Mental Illness, and at such a young age.

But once you own it.  Own your shit.  You realize that there are people out there who are there to help you become the best version of yourself possible.

And there are assholes too.  But mostly cool people who care.  So I try to disregard the jerks and allow the positive people in.  The one’s who can remind you what a bomb ass person you are when you’re down in the dumps.


Here are some of the things I’ve done to try to help with my funk.

Set up an appointment with my Counselor.  I’m not sure why people have such an aversion to therapy, but personally I find it… therapeutic?  haha.

Set up an appointment with my Psychiatrist.  With Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Major Depression I have had to have my meds adjusted in the past.  It’s always a good idea to have a recheck.

Eat healthier.  I’ve actually eaten like SHIT.  But luckily, I have a few coworkers and an awesome boyfriend who remind me that I am not getting the nutrition I need right now – especially when healing still from surgery.  So the last couple of days I have made an effort to increase my fruit, veggie, and protein intake.

Drink water.  When I am in a funk I forget to drink.  Dehydration makes fatigue worse.  I also have an ileostomy so this is an even bigger issue for me.

Drink Tea.  Kava Tea is my favorite.  It’s a natural stress reliever – and since I began drinking it nightly I have not had to use any Xanax.  This is NOT the case for everyone.  But it works for me.





Walk outside.  I know, it sounds simple.  But when I’m in a funk my bed is my sanctuary.  I’ve spent a lot of time there over the last few weeks, but the last few days I’ve made a conscious effort to walk outside – sunshine and vitamin D are instant mood boosters.

Seriously, I died laughing because it’s so true…. but you’d be surprised.  Even laying in the sun like a lazy mass can help.  😉

Accept the Help.  Boyfriend wants to do your dishes?  Thank you.  Daughter wants to make pb&j for dinner?  Thank you.

Music is therapy.  At least for me.  I use Amazon Music and you can get a free 30 day trial which should get you through at least one of your funks.  Haha.

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Forgive yourself.  Your normal ambitious, bad ass self is taking a breather.  Everything WILL get done, but maybe not as quickly as you’d like.

  1. You don’t have to do ALL of the laundry.  Just enough to have the essentials.
  2. Peanut Butter and Jelly Sandwiches, Cheese Quesadillas, and Cereal are all acceptable meals for dinner.  It’s OK.
  3. Single Tasking versus Multi Tasking.  Also OK.  Brain fog makes it hard to juggle 7 different things at once
  4. Celebrate Small Victories.  Sometimes it’s as simple as showering.  Yes.  For real.  Shaved my legs?  That”s a major victory during a funk.  LOL.

Keep on Keeping On.  There is no one size fits all and often there is not one magic thing that brings me out of my funks.  I would love to know what works for you.


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4 Comments on “One Flawsome Momma: What is a FUNK? And what to do about it.

  1. Recognizing the funk fall for what it is is a key to self management of depression. Of course you suggest we should avail ourselves of professional help and I agree we must as you present be proactive in our illness management. When well feel episode coming on we don’t just sit there being immobilized by it. It takes practice. It takes willingness. And a little stubbornness in the face of it too.

    1. Absolutely! I have a tendency to fall hard if I don’t fight back with the early signs. Professional help is necessary for me, but also utilizing my support system and moving forward. It is a proactive process, and one that is not always easy, but always worth it. Thank you for Sharon your insight. 💫

  2. I love this! It is SO easy to drift into the ‘funk’ without even realizing it. As I’ve grown to understand my role as a caregiver, it’s been even more difficult to realize that I’m on a clear path towards funk-doom. 🙂 So, my daily relaxation is a cup of tea at night after my son goes to bed.

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